“I am Christian and I am single.” As a person who has mingled with so many Christians, I often hear those two statements come out of the mouth of people in a single breath. Christianity and singleness seems to equate with each other very well. Why are there so many Christian singles, we may ask? I don’t have the exact answer myself but I can guess.

Christians are a group of people with a strict guiding principle when it comes to associating with other people. They’re not really antisocial nor are they choosy people. There are just some rules that they are tying to obey. These rules may be imposed by their church. They could be imposed by their Christian parents. And many of these rules are self-imposed. Christians are trying to live up with a standard of living that is far from normal. With normal I mean majority of people. They are normal people. Actually, only their lifestyle is different.

Now what has lifestyle has to do with singleness? Well, for one, Christians to have a partner, have to find the right person. The first thing they would try to do is look for partners within their church. Depending on the size of church, a Christian who looks for a partner could find a few matches. Those matches are based on age, personality, likes and dislikes, and other personal preferences. Out of those criteria, the Christian will set guiding principles in looking for the right person to mingle with. They would get to know each other and sometimes, feeling develops that will lead to marriage proposals and then marriage vows. That’s what happens in a perfect world. In the real world, however, the matches, if there’s any, rarely blooms to a loving relationship. Many Christians begin to grow old without finding the right person for them.

Christian singles are such because they choose to be like that. They have a choice but they are not using that power of choice wisely. Some choose to be single because they think that being single is God’s will for them. They thought that if they were not able to find the right partner within the church then the search is already over. They failed to see the real world that is out there waiting for people like them.

It is not too late for Christian singles, however. If they would just open their eyes and look around them, they would see people. The world is so big and it is a home to millions of Christians who are also waiting or even seeking for someone to be their partner for the rest of their lives. If only Christian singles would open up a little and give serious relationship a chance to prove to them that the world is full of nice people and they’re also Christians, they would feel the warmth of the love the wide Christian world can offer.

Yes. There’s a wide world full of other Christians out there. They are jus waiting for you to open up and reach out to them.

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It is a joy to be with people especially when those people share something in common with you. Meeting people like them will bring out something that you have never experienced with your other acquaintances. Christian friends are exceptional. They exhibit characters that you will not see in other people. But that’s also a problem. There are few Christians out there who would like to meet other people. They tend to be reserved and a little unsociable. You will not see them in other people’s favorite hangout very often. Christian people tend to associate only with people they know very well. That’s why some of them do not find the right person to love for the rest of their lives.

Christian dating is never without a problem. Christians abide to certain rules that are not common with other people. It’s a good thing, though, for those who understand why it is so. But for everyone else, it’s just too strict. You can’t go over the boundary set by their guiding principles. There’s age restriction, time restriction, place restriction. Christian friend seekers do not seem to have enough grounds to look for the right person to date. And that’s just one part of the whole picture. If you do find someone to have a date with, you’ll be in for more surprises. Or maybe it would be more accurate to say a lot more restrictions. But it’s not really that difficult to follow. And once you abide by the guidelines, you will find peace and comfort.

The principles are not really set to prevent people from being happy. Happiness is relative. People become happy because of different reasons. And you could choose to be happy all you want regardless of the situation. It’s only a matter of knowing the right things that will make you happy. People can be happy with simple pleasures. Anyway, dating is not mean for fun, real fun. It’s done to get to know more the person you are dating. But it could be fun too depending on how you perceive it. There are still a lot of spaces for happiness in Christian dating despite having boundaries.

For some, Christian dating is just plain boring. But that is not true. Dating is so much fun even if you were just sitting and talking. It’s up to those who are dating to come up with a conversation that will brighten up the mood of the person they are dating.  Christians are not different from other people. They laugh when you crack a joke. They smile when you say something funny. They would even burst into laughter once you make a mistake.

Christian dating is not a hard thing to do. It just so happen that there are certain rules that are to be followed to keep things in their proper perspective. Those principles are set to make dating enjoyable for Christians without compromising their beliefs. Many people assumed that this kind of dating is just too boring for them to enjoy. Well, it could be boring, if you allow it to be. But if you make it as enjoyable as it can be, then you’ll enjoy it just like anything else that can make you happy.

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